For every kid that studied well and got above average grades, there was always that one kid who, no matter how hard s/he tries, still could not get a passing grade.
I am that kid, and looking back, I was very thankful that I had a mother who was a strict and stern taskmaster. Between the two of us, we were able to come up with several ways of ensuring that I passed all my subjects.
Because my young mind would much rather be focused on computer games rather than hitting the books, my mom set up a reward system in exchange for passing my quizzes and exams.
She also assisted me in my studies, constantly asking questions about a certain topic and gently doing corrections on any mistakes I made during the review.
In other words, her level of parental involvement was motivatingon for me to do well in my studies so that the effort she put in helping me study will not go to waste.
Whenever I studied for my exams and quizzes, my mother would always ensure that she limited my gaming time. This was her way of reducing distractions before exam week so that I could focus on hitting the books and reviewing my notes.
She also prepared a place inside our home that was free of noise from the outside and was also well-lit so that I did not have any problems reading my notes for my quizzes and exams.
For her, an ideal environment was necessary for me to focus since I was struggling with all the distractions around me.
I was the type of kid who did not value the importance of balance because I focused more on having fun, rather than studying my lessons for my quizzes and exams.
To remedy this situation, my mother assigned me a timetable where she listed activities that I can do within a certain period. This served as a guide for me to limit the hourstimes I spent playing games and watching television, and allowed me to dedicate time to studying.
For a rambunctious kid like me, an organized timetable was a godsend and my mother put in the work of ensuring that I followed it down to the letter.
Most kids would tell you that they find studying boring and dull, and would rather play games
and bond with their friends, rather than going to the library to study their notes.
I had the same thought as a kid. But and because my mother wanted me to excel academically, she told me to get used to studying little by little.
This entailed getting into the habit of studying for small amounts of time at first, gradually extending the time I spent studying so that I could adapt easily. It eventually resulted in me developing a love for studying not only during class but also outside of class.
Thus, with my mother’s help, she slowly helped me ease into the habit of studying while reducing the effect on my mood.
I was never the kid who received honors and awards at school, nor joined any academic
competition at school. Neither did I enjoy listening to teachers lecturing during class time.
In order to cultivate a focused attitude towards academics, my mother provided real-life examples of successful people and the attitudes that they developed in order to become what they are today.
Since my mother was also studying for her Masters’ degree, we studied together, with me slowly emulating her. In other words, she served as an example to me. This has allowed me to develop a focused attitude towards studying.
Thanks to my mother’s assistance, I was able to overcome my poor performance at school leading to low grades and allowed me to succeed at school and taught me values like focus, time management, a never-give-up attitude, patience and the ability to be flexible with my schedule being important factors that helped me excel in my academics.
These are me and my mother’s experiences, and they may be different from yours, and the ways in which you found solutions to your own kids low grades may also be different, but in the end, the most important factor is that you, the parent, are involved in your kids academic development.
However, do not discount the possibility that your kids’ problems are psychological or mental in nature and, if so, need to be diagnosed by a licensed psychiatrist or a doctor that specializes in mental illnesses.